I'm 46, bi, (new to) poly, and have MPD/DID due to severe childhood abuse. Because of that I've had sexual aversion, which has caused untold problems in my marriage (almost 22 years now). My husband probably has MPD/DID also (undiagnosed but I've had talks with his alters, so I know they're there).
We've done all kinds of therapy but for the past year or so we haven't had sex with each other. We still care about each other but neither of us really wants to anyway so why force it?
It was nice to find this group in that it's odd talking about this with other people, who seem to think no sex = divorce or something.
Anyway, hope someone is still here.